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love & marriage & fighting in the truck

@dmossthered & I went on our first date again last night. except this one didn't end in me refusing to be his girlfriend. ;) glad I changed my mind.
thursday night david & I went on our first day again. except for this time it did not end in me refusing to be his girlfriend. it was a lot more fun the second time, too. just saying.

sometimes people ask me when I knew I wanted to marry David. I know exactly when I decided that, actually. & it wasn’t in the middle of a dinner date or a walk at the rez.it was during a fight in his truck. we were in the middle of a big argument–one of those where you get buried in selfishness and you can’t see the other person’s side. I said something unkind & then sat withdrawn, crying in the passenger seat. it got really quiet. & then I heard the noise of someone opening their mouth to say something. & I braced myself for something pretty bad. I deserved it, I reasoned. but instead, I heard David say calmly & decisively, “Ruth Ann, I love you & I’m really glad I’m with you right now.”

sometimes weddings seem really perfect. I’ve sat in the pew, wondering if it was even possible for me to ever have a relationship like the one on stage. & today, David & I are going to be the ones standing at the front. but we can tell you that our relationship has not been perfect. we’ve had conflict–not just the where should we eat dinner kind, but the curled up in a ball sobbing kind. we’ve wronged each other numerous times & we have failures of communication. sometimes we just get in a bad mood.

David’s & my relationship isn’t perfect. but it’s good–beautifully, gloriously good. the God of grace rescues us from ourselves time & time again– giving us mercy for one another, pricking us to strive for peace, making us one. making us new. ultimately I think we could both agree that being together has been an adventure in not getting what we deserve. expecting cold words from the drivers seat & receiving a loving embrace instead. deserving judgement & receiving understanding. we don’t do this perfectly. but we’re learning.

we met studying the book of Romans & decided we had feelings for each other translating 1 John from ancient Greek to English. in our Greek class the professor called roll by how many hours you studied. spending so much time together in the Word forced us to think about a lot of things. & the part of 1 John I dwell on over & over is in chapter four. We love because He first loved us. 

& we do. David & I both deserved death & received life… life abundant, spilling over with joy. any love & grace we have with one another is born out of the great love–the never stopping, never giving up, unbreaking, always & forever love–that we’ve been shown. we’re exciting to share a tiny smidge of that love with one another today. this is a good life that we get to live. thanks be to God for his indescribable gift.

life lately

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walkin to mcdades. ooey gooey caramel brownies. honeymoon plans. watching craigslist joe with jordyn (pretty good). “international fun day” at school. mom & dad helping us unpack. david got a (real good) job!! nathan graduated from high school. 900 pieces of paper graded & tracked. popsicles on the stoop with neighborhood kids. mexican street corn (another shauna recipe). campbell’s real fast with helen. sunshine, finally. last minute wedding stuff. almost there.

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so I had my first ever grown up birthday a week & a half ago. & it was a lot better than I had expected. sister came & ate lunch in the cafeteria with me & my second grade birthday twin. came home to lots of surprises from the best boy & then we went to babalu & the park. to top it all off, I kind of dozed on and off through a really good documentary about a middle school chess team (brooklyn castle, check it out). the other weekend I had the epiphany that, if I want to stay awake for a movie, I need to watch it in the morning. sure enough, last sunday morning david & I watched avengers & I made it through the whole thing like a champ.

also, david got me sunflowers on my birthday. which was exactly 11 days ago. said sunflowers are still lovely looking. I marvel at this fact repeatedly to anyone who will listen. I’m pretty sure God knew we needed a little extra sun in the midst of all this moving mess. so I’m thankful for magic long-living sunflowers, friends who love me & the God who has been faithful throughout the craziest year of life yet.

moving on out

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playing catch up due to lack of Internet at new house. back up & running now, thanks dad!

we spent the majority of the first weekend in May yard saling & moving. we made a surprisingly large amount of money selling things we don’t want anymore, & then gave a lot more to goodwill, plus filled the street with hefty bags. cleaning out is good.

we’re now nestled in our little house. or jenna & I are, anyway. it’s overflowing with boxes & we’re still working on clearing off floor space. but David & I are very thankful–for kind neighbors, parents who surprised us at the yard sale (!), the most flexible room mate in the world, friends who came to hang out, & a sister/a wilson who spent most of their weekend loving us very tangibly. life is good in fondren. even if it’s a bit cluttered right now.